I have lived a life where deceit, betrayal, abuse, disappointments, loss, sadness and devastation has helped to build my character and strength. But I take each of those painful memories and have learned to accept them as valuable life experiences. I truly think that God continues to this day, to sculpt and prepare me for something greater than what I do now. And one of the greatest gifts that He gave to me was the ability to laugh. The ability to laugh at myself, at or with others, and at what this life has dealt me. I have often been told that I have a hearty laugh and everyone seems to be cheered by it. I have had people peek in on me sometimes just to see who the laughter belonged to... not sure if that is a good thing, but I take it as a compliment. Through the sorrows and darkness I've survived in my lifetime, if I didn't have my God, my children, and or my sense of humor, I would not have survived any of it.
But today, instead of focusing on my sad stories, I wanted to talk about change. A person can only change when they see their own flaws. If they don't think that anything is wrong wtih them, then they won't feel the need to change anything. For instance, if you look in the mirror and see a beautiful person looking back at you ( on the outside ), then you're happy with yourself and often times, there won't be a reason to change your looks. Unfortunately, people do not see the value of their own beauty in this society since everyone's perception of beauty is so different than what God intended beauty to be.
But let's examine the flaws within a person's character, trait, or morals. I've decided that when my husband and I argue, I am going to record it. More than proving him wrong, here is why... I feel that sometimes what we say to the other person is not how the person interprets it. If I am trying to get my point across my way but he receives it differently, then he is completely missing the point I am trying to make and well, there goes the whole reason for the argument. AND VICE VERSA. When he tells me something, he may mean something completely different than how it sounded to me! And oftentimes, this leads to more pain, misunderstanding, and frustration. It's like an addict, unless you admit that you have an addiction, you won't feel the need to seek help. Every one of us has character flaws and believe me, most of us do not realize or acknowledge it. But when a loved one points it out to us, we should try and take a look in the "mirror" of our souls and try and view it from the perspective of that person(s). This quality can save or break a relationship.
I know so many beautiful people out there and close to me that suffer from not allowing themselves the pleasures and happiness of life by not really seeing themselves. They deprive themselves by pretending to be someone they are not. They deceives themselves and in the end, they hurt not only themselves, but all others who love and care for them. And eventually end up alone.
As we get older, we hope to get wiser... this is not always the case. We sometimes experience new things as we get older and it is truly how we deal with what we are dealt with that counts. Character counts. Morals count. Principle counts. Ethics count. I want to die a proud and true person. When I pass... I want people to remember that I had flaws and made mistakes along the way... but most importantly, i want to know in my heart and soul, that I learned from them and tried my best to correct them. I want to be remembered for being human... and for my hearty laugh!
Love,
Me
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